When you don't quite fit in, you develop a sixth sense about how to navigate a personal life and a work one in ways divergent from those who do fit in. Of course, that consumes plenty of energy.
But as we age there is a payoff. That is that we have already developed the mindset that we have to think differently. For us there never had been a straight path from A to B to C. So, we're not surprised that the aging are made to master an obstacle course for whatever we need and want.
Take earning a living "at our age." Sure, at first I attempted the conventional route: Getting a full-time job.
But when that didn't pan out I recognized that it was up to me to create the way I could continue to bring in income. I returned to the field of executive communications which I had left at the end of the 90s.
In addition, I had no trouble accepting that I had to cut fixed costs, of both the business and my own personal lifestyle. I researched how. Eventually that resulted in my relocation to the Southwest from hyper-expensive Northeast Corridor.
In addition, I have been able to embrace the lower profile needed to work with Generations X and Y. As an outlier, I had to get down cold a number of personas.
Can traditional men and women develop the mindsets we outliers already have? Yes, if they are determined to remain in the workforce or operating their own business.