The book "New Aging" pushes back on all the usual complaints about aging. Just published last March by Matthias Hollwich it doesn't let any of us get away with why aging shouldn't be the biggest adventure of our lives. Here you can order it from Amazon.
Well, Hollwich celebrates co-living. Remember how much fun it used to be bunking in the dorm? We never had so many friends, available at all hours.
We can re-do those good old days by leasing out parts of our house. Not only are the expenses shared. So are resources. Joe may have the car. Joyce used to be a diabetes nurse so she can implement healthful eating. And Pete knows how to fix anything.
Then there is the grouse about having no family left. Hollwich gives us permission to make friends family. They become our new siblings.
This resonates with me. One of my sisters Camille Klinga is dead. The other Anne Murga-Ring hasn't spoken to me on the phone since November 2003. Soon I will make it official: My new sister will be Pat Price. I think she'll accept my offer to be my sister. She has designed her sister-in-law Nancy as her official sister.
The adventure part doesn't have to cost us big bucks. We can simply visit parts of our little town or big city we haven't. On Saturdays, I am going to make a new ritual: taking the bus downtown to explore whatever. The fact that parking there costs an arm and a leg is no excuse for not making downtown part of my being.
In essence, Hollwich reinforces what research is proving: When it comes to aging, we get what we expect. Those who are optimistic about this new part of their lives have smooth sailing. When there was a health problem, they bounce back quickly. And they live a long happy life. Those who expected the worst ...