Back in Connecticut, where I had been based for too long, I was unable to make new friends. Primarily, that's because I had forgotten how and didn't want to invest the energy in re-learning the art of intimacy.
Then, I relocated to the Southwest. Lonely, I observed how I interacted with strangers and their reactions. It became obvious that a lot of what I was doing was self-defeating. So, I experimented with a range of personas and "pick-up lines." The ones which were effective, I retained.
Within a year I have developed several intimate relationships. They care about the daily details of my little life. In addition, I had to go through the trauma of exiting what I had encouraged and shouldn't have. That's what I am trying to avoid even getting into in the future. It's much like we used to say, "Now I know exactly what kind of guy I will never date again."