However, as comes up so much in my coaching, retirement presents a difficult transition for many. Along with the gift of time, for example, goes the burden of figuring out what to do with it.
That adjustment is increased significantly when it is a couple, not just one person, who enters this new phase of life.
In MarketWatch, Joan Fischer discusses this challenge. Actually, it is so huge that divorce could be the result. Since 1990, the divorce rate of those over-65 has tripled.
Of course, MarketWatch provides tips on how couples can manage the togetherness of retirement.
Among the recommendations is to limit that togetherness by developing separate hobbies and other kinds of interests. Don't both volunteer at the food bank.
Also, as usual, how the couple communications plays a major role in how smoothly the relationship will proceed. The guidance is for each partner to be clear about likes and dislikes but to do that diplomatically.
Instead of attacking with "We always do what you want," the way of high social intelligence would be to say, "I would give my right arm to go to that new restaurant and, guess what, I have a 15%-off coupon for it. Wouldn't that be fun and it won't break the bank."
In addition, it's a plus if both partners retire at the same time. They are in synch.
But, the first step for couples is to recognize that retirement involves change on myriad levels. Most human beings find change an ordeal.
In my coaching those planning retirement too often are euphoric about "leaving the rat race." They have put on blinders what their new lifestyle will be like on a day-to-day basis.
The relief on not setting the alarm and hurrying off to work every morning can quickly become waking up to the ordeal of so much time ahead that day, with seemingly nothing productive to do. America had been built on the Puritan ethos of being productive.
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